![]() Photo by Min An on Planting the Seeds for Active Listening We all have a lot going on, but that’s no excuse for not making the space for others to tell their story. Having a support system that checks you when you are getting burned out can prevent my experience from happening to anyone else. If you ever experienced a not so happy or warm therapist in your life, know that my heart goes out to you. ![]() I did what I had to for the assignment and never went back because of this interaction. Who knows what other responsibilities were on his plate but if you’re in this profession, connection is key. His body language was even cold and distant. He came across as too busy to focus on what I was telling him and I felt very rushed. The therapist seemed like he wasn’t even listening to what I had to say. Even from the first session, I didn’t feel comfortable. ![]() This was a great idea, but it made me see the importance of your gut instinct with a therapist. In my masters program we had to go to therapy sessions as an assignment for a class to give us firsthand experience on the other side of the desk. Photo by Alex Green on Why the Relationship Matters Make sure you feel comfortable talking with your therapist because the trust and openness you feel with them determines if therapy works. A strong therapeutic relationship can make or break future progress. Rogers’s theory looks at the relationship between the therapist and client to model what a healthy relationship is so the skills learned can trickled down to other relationships in the individual’s life. Empathy is connecting with the other person by joining them in their struggle.Įmpathy is a cornerstone to healthy relationships. Sympathy means feeling sorry for someone else but not being able to put yourself in their shoes. His model of therapy is based on empathy. Photo by Alexandr Podvalny on Rogerian Modelīack to Carl Rogers. It’s good, but there are many other ways to be the best listener. I often use this skill as a part of my own work with clients. Linda in the Netflix original Lucifer definitely used this skill. Reflecting is important, but should not be the only way we listen. This is the classic therapist you see in popular movies and shows. So, you hear what’s said, change it a little, and say it back. Reflecting is just what it sounds like: you’re the mirror. In this sea of listening, what does reflective listening have to to with active listening? Well, the journey to active started with reflective. You might be half-listening, hearing what you want to hear, or letting it go in one ear and out the other. During his studies, reflective listening was born. Photo by Eren Li on History of Active ListeningĬarl Rogers first studied listening skills in healthy relationships. ![]() Well, that’s the breakdown, so let’s jump in. The goal is to narrow these down and make it easier to become second nature for you. Active Listening might be the last piece you’ve been missing to build the bridge from acquaintances to best buds.įinally, how do you practice active listening? What steps can you take today to get better at the receiving end of the conversation? There’s tons of information out there on Active Listening skills. Second, why is active listening so important? How could Active Listening make you a better friend? Lasting Relationships need strong communication. Rodgers gave the power back to the client. He focused on clients as the experts in their lives. His work on how to talk with people caused a shift in how the roles in a therapeutic relationship were defined. Photo by Tirachard Kumtanom on All the pieces to Active Listeningįirst, the history of active listening, starting with Carl Rogers that setting the wheels in motion. Active listening might be what you need to up your friend game. Others might have to work on these skills every single day to get it right. We all drift off in conversations, but what can you do today to become a better listener? Some people are naturally great listeners. Tuning out the noise in our heads and switching gears to fully pay attention to what someone’s saying might take some work.
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